Ask Magic: Musicians Have to Be Proactive, Not Reactive
Lost in love? Your relationship too weird for Ann Landers to understand? Trying to discover what comes next in your life or your music? Bring your problems to Ask Magic, your chance to ask Arizona's reigning slow-jam king for advice on whatever life throws at you. (Click here to ask MC Magic a question of your own.)Dear Magic,
I've got a son, and my baby daddy is there for us, but we're not together. I'm the one that cut the rope, cuz he cheated, but that was months ago. Now I feel like I'm willing to put the past in the past and move forward. Should I try to get back with him?
I don't know how he feels about me any more, but I still have feelings for him!
Over It in Oklahoma
Dear Over It in Oklahoma,
We should start with a question for you: What exactly is your reason for wanting to reconcile with your baby daddy in the first place?
Do you really want to put the past in the past and move forward as a family or are you just afraid of seeing him with another woman? He may have cheated, but nobody knows his reasons for it except him.
So are you strong-minded enough to forgive and forget? Chances are no -- you may forgive him, but you're always going to have what he did floating around in the back of your head. The thought of what he might do could actually do more damage than the actions themselves, if they keep festering.
It may be best for the two of you to just focus on being great parents, and let a bad relationship take the back seat.
I love your music -- the beat, the lyrics, everything. But when you're writing music, how do you know the rights words to say? Do they just come to you or do you think about what to write about first and then go from there?
A Fan From Phoenix
A Fan From Phoenix,
Everything is a process.