Ask Magic: How Can I Find the Time to Work and Make Music?
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I am a young woman starting her sophomore year of college in the fall, and I just ended a two-year-plus relationship with a guy who is in the Navy. He's being stationed in Japan, and I was feeling trapped by the thought of tying myself down to someone who isn't around, in addition to that, I'm young and he is all I've known.
Long story short, I ended it because I want to take this time to "find myself." But after two years of being in a serious relationship, I don't know who "I" am, nor do I know where to start on finding that person. As someone who has made a career out of doing what you love, where do you recommend I begin? I'm in school and I have loads of opportunities in front of me, but I'm scared of going at things alone. -- Suddenly Single in AZ
Dear Suddenly Single,
You are in a GREAT position to begin the rest of your life.
Too many people tie themselves down early in life, and they never get a chance to really experience life and what the world has to offer them. There's nothing worse than reaching a certain age and realizing that you haven't really experienced life -- at that point you're stuck trying to make up for lost time.
Your ex is in the Navy and heading for Japan; he's definitely going to be experiencing life. What about you? To figure out what it is you love, you have to get out and experience as much as you can, until you find that one thing that stands out to you . . .
Look at being single this way: Now you're free to experience any and everything you want! Jump to it!
I've been with this guy for a few months now, and we're happy, but my friends are starting to act like he's bad for me. It's not like they're saying anything about him, just it's really obvious they don't like him.
It's okay for now, but it's starting to get awkward and I don't know how to make them deal with us being together. If they don't like each other whatever, but I want them to at least be able to stand each other because I care about all of them. What can I do? And are they seeing something about him that I'm not?
Friend-Free in Mesa
Real friends are never the best at hiding their emotions or feelings about a subject, especially when it's something that's important to you.