Can You Love the Music You Love After a Breakup?
So, my girlfriend and I just broke up. Coincidentally, or maybe because April is just a shitty month, the inverse happened to Camille Standen, who wrote a piece for Noisey about how her shattered relationship ruined all the songs she used to love.
I can relate, but I wouldn't say my favorite songs have been ruined. Hearing The Temptations sing "My Girl" -- with that lyric, "I've even got the month of May" -- just fucking tore me up, but otherwise I seem to be okay, and the music in my rotation hasn't changed much.
Music is always sweeter at two points in a relationship: The start and finish. When you first meet, it's like rediscovering The Velvet Underground, and when you break up, it's like rediscovering what The Velvet Underground actually sang about. Who loves the motherfucking sun, indeed.
That's not to say I'm not incredibly broken up -- only on the inside! Believe it or not, I have feelings, guys! But I think I'm handling things well. Resisting the temptation to publicly shame The Girl, it's more important for me to realize I no longer have to consume my time and energy attempting to make someone happy who can't even make herself happy.
Music is getting me through this. Without it, I'd probably be getting drunk and calling her at two in the morning. Instead, I'm just getting drunk. Maybe you're going through a breakup as well and would like some album suggestions for breakin' on through to the other side. And, hey, Camille, if you're still available, maybe you'd like to go on a date. I can totally introduce you to some music that'll make you smile again (wink, wink).
LCD Soundsystem - This Is HappeningFriday, I was listening to 93.9 when "All I Want" came on and I saw a car spin out, clip five other cars, and crash on the other side of the road. This is relevant because a) it was terrifying and kind of insane, and b) it made me realize my problems could be a lot worse.
But suddenly I realized that This Is Happening is a breakup album, in a few senses of the word. Released almost a year before the band called it quits, it hints at giving up, moving on, picking up the pieces, and starting over. Happening is also really beautiful and sad and tears you up inside and brings you back at the end with "Home." Coincidentally, that's the title of a song I can never, ever listen to again. Fuck you, Edward Sharpe. I hope you get cancer.
Boards of Canada - Music Has the Right to ChildrenWeird choice, right? But I lost my virginity to this album. I was, you know, getting ready for the moment because I knew it was coming. I wanted to put on some music and wanted something that I had no prior association with.
Like, you want it to be sentimental, but you don't want your very first lovemaking music to be The White Album because you already have a thousand memories attached to that. So I chose something I had never listened to before. A friend had dumped his iTunes onto my computer and, whatever, it seemed good enough.
I never knew I was going to fall so head over heels in love with this album, even as I fell out of affection with that very first girl. Best of all, it has no fucking songs about romance, unless you interpret it pretty broadly, so it's like a palate cleanser. Spin this record and it'll pick you right up, a high-water mark before your next breakdown.