Here's How Not to Approach a Journalist on Facebook

David Christian Owens

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Spin and Up On The Sun exposure. Man Spence is making out....

Jason Stage

nicely done Nicki!

Joshua Rodriguez

There a lot of stupid people out there, and a lot of them are "artists".

Jeremi Stoker

BAND OF THE YEAR!

ellieblackthorne

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NOM NOM NOM!!

HE EATS YOUR TEARS!

https://www.facebook.com/SpenceTheBand

UMAD?

jordobordo

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Hi Nicki, I actually used to be in this band. In fact I'm the guy still featured in the picture on the far left. I just have to say I have no stake in this band at all, but I find that conversation really hard to believe. I know dan really well and although he will respond like that to people who really are hard core assholes, i've never seen him just go off on someone for essentially no reason. This makes me think this is one of two situations. number 1 is that you deleted alot of the thread and there are other messages from you that prompted him to get pissed and block you. number 2 would be that he was confused at who you were and thought you were some other jerk (he does alot of promoting online and answers alot of messages so it is easy to get confused, i know i used to do it!) so even though im not in Spence anymore, i'll just apologize to you on behalf of dan and everyone. I really cant imagine it being more then a misunderstanding. He's not that big of a dick haha. but if that is the way it shook out then so be it! (i added you on facebook by the way but couldnt send you a message)

asugirl8884

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First of all, this was supposed to be somewhat funny and a commentary on the ridiculous amounts of spam we all get, which can be extremely irritating especially if you're a journalist.

Second point: Nicki is the nicest, most caring person you'll ever meet. She is also a great journalist. She follows up with people and isn't afraid to ask tough questions. In this case, it was meant to be a joke. Mr. Spence didn't take it so well, and seems to have an extremely large ego and an inability to deal with women who question him. Sounds like he has mommy/girlfriend issues. He needs to learn how to communicate and respect people or he won't go very far in this world.

Whatever the case may be, Nicki doesn't deserve the flack for this. Mr. Spence does. He is rude, immature and clearly needs to grow up. I think the last time I heard the word "twat" use was when I was in eighth grade. Learn how to properly promote your band. Learn how to TALK to other people, especially women, with respect and dignity, instead of like a 12-year-old boy with no social skills. Mr. Spence deserves all the negative feedback he is getting, and it's unfortunate he has to go online and force his friends to defend him.

As an aside: The most irritating part is the spam is designed to look casual, like he just typed it up. I hate this kind of deception.

bubbaphatbootyhunta

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@asugirl8884 Love the fact that you automatically assume that this guy has an "inability to deal with women who question him". WAY TO PLAY THE GENDER CARD! Did it ever occur to you that this might have been a misunderstanding, and the fact that nicool16 has a vagina didn't even enter into it?

Good to see that sexism is still a 2-way street!

nicool16

@asugirl8884 Wow, I don't know who you are, but thanks so much for your comment!

Antonio Alejandro Garcia

he tried so hard and then go off on you because you didnt befriend him smh.

reality

Wow you Americans just make everything a goddamn drama don't you?

hadouken

@reality Im an american and I think this is absurd. Can't believe this garbage gets posted.

MadInAmerica

@hadouken @reality I'm an American and this is an outrage. How can be people be SO DRAMATIC? I can't even believe it! All they do is get all worked up over nothing! For nothing! Well guess what? I'm done with it. I am going to get everybody on the 86 list of everything everywhere forever.

eovogt

I cant believe you make a living doing this.

Harpua

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Looks like SPIN agrees that this douchebag got what was coming to him.

http://www.spin.com/articles/arizona-journalist-nicki-escudero-revenge-spam-slinging-musician-daniel-david-spence?utm_source=spintwitter&utm_medium=social&utm_campaign=spintwitter'

selough

I think it's time to call the Facebook police.

eremitic

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Wow, love how people are defending this guy for spamming (which is against Facebook policy) and being a manipulative douche. There are a million better ways to meet connects that don't involve strangers mass spamming and subsequently attacking the person they originally wanted to be friends with on Facebook all because they couldn't use her for what they wanted. Getting them blacklisted may have been a tad overboard but whatever. Entitled attitudes like that make me think they just spam for plays anyway and puts the entire band in a negative light. Music isn't even that good, either. Basically, there's a professional way to go about this sort of thing and nothing this guy did was even remotely close to that.

hotchman1

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I wonder how many of the comments here are from fans of this band. Nikki is a good person and not a Twat. Especially not after a 5 min facebook conversation. What a little idiot this guy is.

JustForThis

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Commenters need to realize that when contacting a promoter or journalist to plug your music/band, sending multiple copy paste messages clearly hinting that you expect some exposure or name passing in return is not only rude, but incredibly unprofessional. Then to follow a simple request to state your business with more bullshit and insults? It boggles the mind...

Good on you Nicki, if this guy wants fame and recognition he can earn it the hard (real) way...

selough

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@JustForThis right? These comments saying the writer is the one to blame are saddening. Why would you ever insult someone that you are trying to get to write good things about you? PR and marketing aside, that's just against all common sense. Clearly he knew Nicki's reach by contacting her in the first place. Spamming (yes, c/p and name dropping is spamming) a journalist is going to get you nowhere but the black list.

Popater

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What a cunt Nicki is ey. A few words on Facebook and you end this guys and his friends ambitions. Ha that's journalism for you right?

DumTwat

@Popater Don't be a dumb twat.

samom7

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Writer is an uptight twat, she needs to smoke a blunt and chill da fuuuuuuuuck ouuuuuut. #420blazeitfaggot

DumTwat

@samom7 You need to stop putting strangers dicks in your mouth, that speech impediment you have got there is quite nasty.

Lovekayy

Spence sounds like the douche, this is not the way to approach anyone.

jondoe1922232

writer is an uptight twat:

www.reddit.com/r/Music/comments/1a5hmu/how_not_to_approach_a_music_journalist_on_facebook/

anamendez.photograph

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He approached you for a useless friend request on FB that you could have ignored, and you tattle and get him banned from LA and Scottsdale. We're you so desperate for his genuine affection?

This is how bands promote themselves, fuck them for trying to get to as many people as possible right?

DumTwat

@anamendez.photograph Yes fuck them for being spammers, it's also how 3rd party cam porn sites get business as well. Don't be a dumb twat, The band guy was a douche about it all after being confronted lashed out like a 12 year old.

Don't side with 12 year old. We don't like pedaphiles round these parts.

jjeastman

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@anamendez.photograph It's not about the attempted self promotion. It's about the unprovoked use of highly derogatory, misogynistic language. It's completely inappropriate. Oh! and lets not forget his trashing of an entire State with blatant pompous generalities. He showed his true colors and deserved what he got. Boycott this band, at least until they find a front man worth looking up to.

anamendez.photograph

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@jjeastman @anamendez.photograph She laughed because he was spamming, her whole reason for replying was to get him to admit it was spam. If she had ignored it like a normal human being it would be an adult response. Instead she egged it on and pursued it to provoke him. I don't defend his response to her merely her reaction which I believe is much more drastic than a few curse words. She ruined and is trying to ruin a whole band because of 1 guy. He isn't the only member and I think this Nikki got way to personal.

Plus I don't think the state of Arizona should take his trashing seriously, he was trying to insult her obviously.

Bethan

@jjeastman

It's got nothing to do with misogyny, he's just a rude asshole

Bethan

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@selough The word isn't used to be directly misogynistic, it's just being used as an offensive word, regardless of who's fucking genitalia it happens to be referring to. That's like saying that by saying the word 'fuck', you're against sex in some way, because it's providing a negative connotation towards sex (it doesn't, that would be stupid). The word 'fuck' is now used as an offensive word in general, not just to describe two people having sex. Just because the journalist was female, does no mean that the use of the word 'twat' was misogynistic - it is just a word he happened to choose.

selough

@Bethan @jjeastman it became misogynistic when he used the word twat, which is a derogatory term aimed towards women.

AdamS

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@anamendez.photograph

This is not how GOOD bands made up of GOOD people try and promote themselves. This is how shitty bands full of shitty douches promote themselves.

anamendez.photograph

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@AdamS @anamendez.photograph I've received a few of these requests from bands, if this Nikki was so offended and thinks of herself so highly that she does not like being approached in a copypaste spam manner then all she had to do was ignore it. Instead she eggs and makes fun of the artist for spamming and then pouts and gets revenge when he insults her.

bigboyg

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Holy shit Nicki is a douche

bubbaphatbootyhunta

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Wow! You seem to be as big a twat as the singer! Congratulations, and all the best in your "social media strategist" career!

thetrunkspace

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that's awesome Nicki. take the power back!

CaptainMaxwellEdison

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Love when douchebags are publicly outed! Thank you!

Popater

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@CaptainMaxwellEdison What like Nikki? I have to agree, what a bitch.

jjeastman

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Didn't his mother ever teach him manners? That is no way to talk to a lady.

rwinslett

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Always nice to see someone's true colors shine through. What a pompous ass.

stevie.rice

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@rwinslett Not just that, he's been trying to get in touch since last August. He had finally got a response. Was "shit happens" the best he could manage?