How Does a Server Decide Who Gets The Check?
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We always give the check to the man and if there are more than one they will usually fight over it. Once I had a man ask for the check on the patio of the restaurant that I was working at, paid it, then asked for a boost over the wall to sneak away from his date. He left his date alone in the restaurant and he tipped the server extra for the boost. True story!
Most of the time it's apparent what guest is in charge of the table. Often, it may be the guest who chooses the wine. Usually the guest in charge has a certain presence about him or her from the beginning. By the end of the meal if it is difficult to determine who the check should go to, it's ultimately put between two gentlemen or in the center of the table.
If it's a male/female couple we tend to place the check near the gentlemen. If two or more guests, we place it in the middle of the table. Eye contact with the guest usually helps to decide where to place the check.
It's all about the Alpha! Group of women: the one that sets the expectations. Group of men: the one that orders the wine. Mixed couple: if not separate checks, the one that sets the tone of the dining experience. It's all about the Alpha!
If a table has not already specified who is paying for the check, I always suggest placing the bill in the center of the table.